Self-love is something I’ve struggled with probably my whole life. I think a lot of us do. Even this post will probably be a little bit of a struggle. It feels like when you’re growing up, people tell you to be confident and you can be anything you want. Then, on the flip side, they’ll also tell you how you’re not good enough. When I was younger I always took those “you’re not good enough’s” to heart more than anything positive anyone had to say. I also grew up in kind of a small town. And, like in most small towns, if you’re not being what everyone else is being, or wearing what everyone else is wearing, then you’re not good enough. And I’m just not an American Eagle/ Abercrombie and Fitch kind of girl, which is what was popular way back when. Haha
It wasn’t until I moved away to go to college that I realized not everyone needs to fit into a box. Not only did I start slowly accepting myself but I also realized absolutely no one is perfect and perfect doesn’t even really exist. I also noticed that the most beautiful people were those embracing their imperfections. It really showed me that I needed to be kinder to myself and that if I was, I would gain more confidence. At the end of the day, we’re all human with flaws and imperfections, so why not embrace them!?
Don’t get me wrong, self-love for me is always a work in progress, but it only gets better and better. So here are some ways I try to show myself some self-love. It may sound corny but in the mornings, after I brush my teeth and wash my face, I’ll tell myself something positive in the mirror. Like a positive affirmation or a simple, I love you. It can feel ridiculous at first but you get used to it. Throughout the day, I try to be aware of negative self-talk and either flip it into a positive or try to just let it go. This one also might sound weird but when I’m depressed or down on myself, I have a tendency to say no to almost everything. So forcing myself to say yes to things and to get out to do fun things also really helps. Lastly, if I can, I try to take 30 mins of me time to decompress. If I can’t do it daily, you better believe I’m doing it every weekend.
In the words of Ru Paul “If you don’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” What are some ways you practice self-love or self-care?